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| The books authored by her and the author herself, Kiran Manral |
You have passionately pursued your profession, had taken up blogging and then at the peak of it you gave up on it to devote more time to motherhood. And now you are back to your passion. So your word of advice to those women who are struggling everyday with the dilemma of how to draw that perfect balance. To those who have given up on full time careers, for motherhood and then have regrets and to those who want to give up on their careers to enjoy motherhood, but cant due to some constraints.
Actually I gave up my career and stopped full time work when I had my son, but I did continue writing freelance and blogging was never an occupation. It was just something one did, by the by. I have always been writing, so I never really stopped.
While I can never be presumptuous enough to give advice to anyone knowing how everyone is fighting their own battles, but here’s something that has always stood me in good stead. Let the decision be yours and own your decision. If it is giving up career for motherhood or taking a temporary sabbatical for a few years, know exactly what you have in mind so you have something to work towards. Keep in touch with the folks in your industry as well as the trends in your industry so if you do decide to get back you don’t feel overwhelmed by the catching up you have to do. Learn to put yourself first, selfishly. Not the baby. Not the husband. Not the family. I think we women don’t acknowledge ourselves enough, our needs, our ambitions, our desires. Physically, emotionally, mentally, sexually. Once you declare unabashedly to yourself that this is important to me, and this is what I need to do to find happiness, you WILL find a way to do it.
Another thing I’d like to tell all moms, those who work outside the home and those who don’t, is that it is okay to reach out for help to other women. Some will help, some will not. Find your tribe and build your tribe. Be with strong, positive, energising women who will be your cheerleaders. And you must be theirs in return. It is only in helping each other that we will be able to help ourselves.
And finally, it is never too late to be who you were meant to be. Whether you are in your thirties or forties or fifties, you owe it to yourself to find your passion and pursue it. Take the first step, the universe will place the ladder right at your foot.
About the Author
After working as a journalist for long, Kiran Manral quit work to be a full time mommy. However, she never gave up on writing. as she always found time to write on gender issues, parenting, fiction and got associated with causes that she passionately believes in.
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